The Wild Rose Vibrator - This is a new accessory in our house and whoa, nelly! It is a keeper. Unlike other suction toys, it is easy to place and can be moved around comfortably. Use code ASHLEIGH10 for 10% off orders over $100.

The Fleshlight Go Torque Ice - We’ve never had luck with male toys, until this one. 🔥

The Magic Wand - Also called the Hitachi, this bedroom essential has been around since 1968. Rip offs are common and the packages can be overwhelming, so if you are just starting, get the Original wand or, my personal favorite––the rechargeable, from this source. Use code ASHLEIGH10 for 10% off orders over $100.

Coconu - a sexy massage by candlelight? Yes, please. We always get the three pack (oil based lube, water based lube, and hemp-infused body oil) and in my videos I explain how we use the three differently, but there is no wrong way. Safe for internal and external use, play with all three and see what combination is your fave. Use code ASHLEIGH15 for 15% off. Now available in Canada, too!

Dedicated Intimacy Bed Covering - Sex blanket, people. It's a sex blanket. And it does exactly what the name suggests––you can use the blanket to cover your whole bed, sort of like an intimacy drop cloth––to keep your linens clean. Bonus is that you don't need to go looking for a clean up towel. Use the clean parts of the blanket to wipe off and you are good to go.

My book, Swing - It’s been called “a whole new genre–the hot self help book” and debuted at #1 in marriage new releases on Amazon Canada and #3 in the US. So far it’s allowed thousands of couples to reimagine what is possible in their relationships, opening up new conversations in and outside of the bedroom. Super sexy ways couples are reading it together include: reading it aloud to each other in bed, each listening to the audiobook during the day, or one reading a sexy chapter as the other dresses in lingerie.

Silk Pillow Cases - Did you know the twelfth wedding anniversary is called the silk anniversary? I got us silk pillowcases back then because I was stuck for a gift, but they quickly became one of our favorite bedroom items. They are incredibly sexy to rub your face into during sex, but equally amazing is that you don't get bed head. The smooth material keeps my hair looking just right so I can jump on a zoom call after an afternoon quickie.

Mentionables Lingerie - When I got those silk pillowcases, Manny got me some really gorgeous lingerie. I love when he picks something out and with Mentionables he can't go wrong. It has become my favorite brand, with beautiful and sexy styles. Use code ASHLEIGH10 for 10% off your order.

Our favorite sound machine - we used to use it to keep the kids asleep. Now we use it to muffle the sound of quickies when we sneak away.

We love the Spicer App, available here for Apple and here for Android, for figuring out fantasy matches that have never come up in conversation.

Dipsea App for Erotic Audio Stories - It can be difficult to transition from work mode or parenting mode to sexy time mode. With so many distractions, the biggest struggle may be getting your head in the game. Dipsea audio stories to the rescue! I've got a few preferred ways to listen to these short, sexy stories: while putting away laundry, in the bath after dinner, or while taking our dog for a walk.

{SPLURGE} Sunlighten Sauna - I bought Manny a sauna for Father's Day this year because he has chronic pain, caused by a tumor in his spine. I tolerate the cold much better than the heat (that's what growing up in Canada and spending six days a week at the rink for 30 years will do to you), so I didn't expect we'd use it together. As the nights get colder and darker, taking a sauna together has quickly become one of our favorite activities for relaxing before bed.